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I was reading on Twitter and some asshole was banging on about how he would rather teach his "kid" (note that he didn't clarify sex) to "lose well" than to be unkind, referring to boys in girls' sports.

He got ratioed to the 9th circle of hell, of course. People pointed out that he could therefore put his sons in boys' sports teams where they would then have the opportunity to lose well.

Oh, but that's not what he meant!

One TIM actually tried to explain that as someone truly dysphoric, he'd NEVER want to be on a girl's team. Beating them all and crushing them with ease would only underline his male body, not validate his feminine identity. Mr. Be Kind didn't understand this and asked why he wouldn't want to be on a team with girls who shared his "gender identity" and the TIM added that he'd feel ashamed for cheating girls, especially with his male body. And that's a very good point- I don't believe that men who enter women's sports are dysphoric in the least. They're very happy with their male bodies.

Mr. Be Kind was stumped on that one.

It's never on trans people to "Be Kind" to anyone else. Creeping family members out by naming yourself after one of them? Tough. Scaring women by being in their vulnerable space? Tough. Taking advantage of sexually inexperienced young men by lying about your actual sex? Tough. Hounding lesbians and ruining them/their spaces? Tough. Destroying fair competition in a sport? Tough. Comparing your bullshit to the difficulties black women face everyday? Tough.

It's all take, take, take, and they don't feel they have to contribute anything in particular, for any reason.

I was reading on Twitter and some asshole was banging on about how he would rather teach his "kid" (note that he didn't clarify sex) to "lose well" than to be unkind, referring to boys in girls' sports. He got ratioed to the 9th circle of hell, of course. People pointed out that he could therefore put his sons in boys' sports teams where they would then have the opportunity to lose well. Oh, but that's not what he meant! One TIM actually tried to explain that as someone truly dysphoric, he'd NEVER want to be on a girl's team. Beating them all and crushing them with ease would only underline his male body, not validate his feminine identity. Mr. Be Kind didn't understand this and asked why he wouldn't want to be on a team with girls who shared his "gender identity" and the TIM added that he'd feel ashamed for cheating girls, especially with his male body. And that's a very good point- I don't believe that men who enter women's sports are dysphoric in the least. They're very happy with their male bodies. Mr. Be Kind was stumped on that one. It's never on trans people to "Be Kind" to anyone else. Creeping family members out by naming yourself after one of them? Tough. Scaring women by being in their vulnerable space? Tough. Taking advantage of sexually inexperienced young men by lying about your actual sex? Tough. Hounding lesbians and ruining them/their spaces? Tough. Destroying fair competition in a sport? Tough. Comparing your bullshit to the difficulties black women face everyday? Tough. It's all take, take, take, and they don't feel they have to contribute anything in particular, for any reason.

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[–] PaleGrass 62 points (+62|-0)

A lot of people talk about the intersection of extreme narcissism and AGP, I wonder if there has been any actual studies showing the co morbidity of this. Of course if there was, it would never be allowed to be published, just curious if any one knows about any research?

[–] blahblahgcer 46 points (+46|-0) Edited

There's a study from last year that says that almost 50% of trans people they studied had a personality disorder. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7084367/

I think that's the one that's often talked about. I'm a little skeptical of it, given how few people were in the study.

https://cdn.atria.nl/ezines/web/IJT/97-03/numbers/symposion/ijtc0103.htm When doing the search, I found this old one that doesn't seem to prove anything definitively.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/5420510_Shame_and_Narcissistic_Rage_in_Autogynephilic_Transsexualism I also found this from 2008, but I don't really want to doxx myself by asking for a full text.

Unfortunately, this might be a topic that few researchers want to touch, given current politics...

[–] PaleGrass 25 points (+25|-0)

Wow thanks for all the info, and you're right no one who needs a pay check could touch this topic. I know when you listen to transwidows stories or the experiences of children whose parents transition, it always screams NPD. C. Jenner seems to fit the criteria. .

[–] bellatrixbells 50 points (+50|-0)

If he has sons, he simply doesn't understand nor care about the repercussions. His sons will go on to lecture the girls in school to "be kind" and dismiss their frustrations as mean-spirited.

If he has daughters, he is teaching them that their boundaries are unimportant, that their spaces and chances in life should be surrendered in favour of males who "suffer".

In any case, it's easy to tell others to "be kind" when you have no dog in the fight.

The real question is, why does it take having daughters for these POSs to give a damn?

[–] bellatrixbells 3 points (+3|-0) Edited

It makes them see stuff they have never seen before I guess.

I know a guy who has three brothers. He was always arguing with me about what we women go through, he basically thought I was exaggerating. Now he has a daughter in preschool and whoopsie he suddenly sees it. Go figure. 🤷🏼‍♀️

ETA The second part.

[–] marmaladetoast 35 points (+35|-0)

Trans people want the world to revolve around them and their incredibly special and unique feelings and never give even basic human decency back. 'Be kind' means 'Shut up and take any and all abuse, but never let me know that it's happening.'

[–] MyBodyMyself 23 points (+23|-0) Edited

That has been my experience.. and all while they claim to be the real victims...

As Spock would say... “fascinating...”

It also reminds me of Invasion of the Body Snatchers because I don’t know who’s safe to talk with or who will do the Trans-zombie-alien woke-scold scream at me just because I maintain that biological sex is real (and many diseases progress differently based on physiological differences!) and also that I don’t think kids should be Transed just because they are gender-nonconforming... Let tomboys be tomboys and girly boys be girly boys.. why do we need to drug little kiddos just because they are different? As if biological sex was only a collection of cringeworthy stereotypes 🙄

https://youtu.be/wTP_SdjD5ms

[–] NO 1 points (+1|-0)

Can’t we call girly boys

Tomgirls?

Or taygirls

Idk!?

[–] MyBodyMyself 0 points (+0|-0)

Yea — there should be a name for them

I always thought, “tomboy” was a bit lacking though... because it obfuscates that there is a girl in there at all: masculine name + masculine label —> tom-boy... but it has had wide acceptance for generations and most people concede we are referring to a girl really in that case. Though with gender ideology — we probably need new updates terms so some Idiot doesn’t try to claim that tomboy = boy as is happening now...

If we went with the same linguistic structure - a feminine boy would be called a feminine name + feminine descriptive label — so it would be something like: Jane-girl... but I don’t think that would ever catch on and I feel that would only feed into the Trans ideology that any gender nonconforming kid is Trans really

I doubt the term, “tomboy” will ever go away and I doubt something like, “janegirl” will ever catch on... but I feel strongly what human beings should accept is that gender non-conformity is just normal in kids and that there is no need to medicalize kids or call them “Trans” the moment any kid defies gender norms. Childhood (for many kids — boys and girls) is gender non-conforming. It would be helpful if kids could just be accepted as kids and stuff the gender stereotypes.

[–] DebraKadabra 25 points (+25|-0)

It's because of cis-privilege. When I finally realized how cis-privileged I was, I decided to take advantage of it and Not Be Kind. Certainly my privilege will insulate me from any repercussions. (/s)

[–] RawSienna 24 points (+25|-1) Edited

Because it’s comprised of cluster B personality disorders + misogyny + paraphilias and there’s no barrier to entry so it attracts every woman-hating, degenerate, maladjusted scumbag to the party. Throw in cultural cachet and cash in.

It’s a ‘human rights’ scam. The hangover is gonna be brutal.

Edit: a word

[–] bea 21 points (+21|-0)

is your transactivism intersectional Mr. Be Kind?

[–] Binah17 18 points (+18|-0)

It's because allies believe trans people are mentally ill people who need protection at all cost.

[–] sonic_fiXXation 18 points (+18|-0)

It's on women to be kind. Unless those 'women' are men, then of course they're exempt.

[–] MeNsTrUaToR27 15 points (+15|-0)

Creeping family members out by naming yourself after one of them?

Great article, but whaaaaaat

[–] diapason 18 points (+18|-0)

Yep, like Caitlin Jenner basically taking his DiL's name

[–] MeNsTrUaToR27 13 points (+13|-0)

Ew I didn't know that. So this person is named Kaitlynn and is married to...? Sorry I'm not knowledgeable about that family and I wanna look her up

[–] diapason 10 points (+10|-0)

Brody Jenner, Bruce's son. I don't think they were officially married though, just engaged

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