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I am reminded of the main character of the novel The Bluest Eye, who grew up in a deeply racist society and internalized racist ideas. She constantly prays for even just one blue eye, to prove her whiteness. After suffering from a series of sexual abuses, she eventually becomes delusional and believes she has attained blue eyes. The motivations are to escape the racism by identifying into the privileged group.

There are parallels to a lot of stories from detransitioned TIFs. Many of them experienced the trauma of sexual assault. The TRA movement feeds into the delusion, instead of advocating for genuine help such as therapy for their trauma. Again, the motivations are to escape the sexism by identifying into the privileged group.

I am reminded of the main character of the novel The Bluest Eye, who grew up in a deeply racist society and internalized racist ideas. She constantly prays for even just one blue eye, to prove her whiteness. After suffering from a series of sexual abuses, she eventually becomes delusional and believes she has attained blue eyes. The motivations are to escape the racism by identifying into the privileged group. There are parallels to a lot of stories from detransitioned TIFs. Many of them experienced the trauma of sexual assault. The TRA movement feeds into the delusion, instead of advocating for genuine help such as therapy for their trauma. Again, the motivations are to escape the sexism by identifying into the privileged group.

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[–] edieandthea 33 points (+33|-0)

The Bluest Eye is one of the most horrifying, unforgettable books I’ve ever read and the comparison is spot on. Among TiFs I know, many have sexual abuse history and want to dissociate from sex based victimization.

[–] Cat [OP] 21 points (+21|-0) Edited

Totally agree, it was such a haunting book, it made me realize just the extent of harm the hierarchy built on systemic racism had. It made me reflect back on my own adolescence, and how I was teased mercilessly about my Asian eyes, and how at the time I aspired to escape the racism if I could just wake up with double eyelids. Toni Morrison is such a fantastic writer.

[–] GynyHappyPeople 33 points (+33|-0) Edited

I have similar thoughts about the stage play ‘Dentity Crisis. It focused on a sane young girl (Jane) who is living in a world of mad people. Her parents both have sexual reassignment surgery, among doing all sorts of other things that were equally off-the-wall things like claiming to have invented cheese, and are constantly trying to convince her that she is the crazy one. Her mental health breaks down, she becomes suicidal, and eventually gives in to the madness.

In the end when Jane goes mad like everyone else, she’s considered cured and her family accepts her with open arms.

[–] EragonPeep 18 points (+18|-0)

That sounds way too on the nose to be allowed in woke culture

[–] GynyHappyPeople 1 points (+1|-0) Edited

It was written in the 1970’s, though I performed in it in the 90’s. The audition piece I did for Jane was a monologue about how living in this world feels like that scene in Peter Pan where the audience is meant to think all they have to do to make fairies real is to believe.

As of the late 90’s no one in my super-liberal town was even approaching calling it transphobic. The idea that two parents would trans themselves and expect their daughter to just accept it without question was universally considered to be insane.

[–] HandsomeCherry 21 points (+21|-0)

I know a lesbian tif with history of sexual abuse and she were raped by another woman that's why she decided to became a man and take power in it while spewing hate about women especially straight women who won't be interested in her because she's a real man in her head. It's hard to watch, really. Naturally I no longer associate myself with such individual, I know her for years and I know her pain but her cognitive dissonance and her desperate escapism from her own body and reality brings her nothing. It's like watching people pretend to be rich by following youtube tips on how to look rich. Nobody's buying it.

[–] notyourfetish 7 points (+7|-0)

This is why the "crazy lesbian" stereotype exists. We are literally driven crazy by a sexist, homophobic world, to the point that people think it's normal for gay women to have mental health issues.

Very few of us are accepted by our families or come up in loving, non-homophobic environments because very few parents are equipped to raise a gay child (or a child in general).

[–] KBash 9 points (+9|-0)

My little second cousin came out as lesbian at fifteen. She’s very gender nonconforming (she was a very girly child before), but no one has tried to trans her, which is refreshing. Her parents (my cousin and cousin-in-law) are wonderful people and Gen Xers who are raising her to be a proud, confident and happy gay woman.

I know this is unusual. I’m happy for her.

[–] milpathecat 2 points (+2|-0)

That's so sad.

[–] HandsomeCherry 1 points (+1|-0)

It is, I feel for her but there's a point where you no longer can sympathize.

[–] milpathecat 1 points (+1|-0)

For sure. You can't save people if they aren't interested in saving themselves.

[–] elleelle 12 points (+12|-0)

That fucking book, man. So horrifying and so beautiful. Haunting.

It's crazy how there are parallels between race and trans but they aren't those that libfems and TRAs point out.

[–] Chronicity 5 points (+5|-0)

This is a spot on comparison and it gives me chills to think about it.

In essence, these are delusional beliefs that maladaptively keep women from confronting—and coming to terms with—the pain within.

[–] Tyro 0 points (+0|-0)

Thanks for the rec, will keep an eye out for it. It sounds interesting.

It's all about the perception of privilege, isn't it? So many girls identify first as bi or lesbian, then onto identifying as boys; it's a desperate search for the label that will successfully signal "bugger off" to the boys. Been there!

Sooner or later though, the illusion always shatters, because there is no label that works 100% for this purpose. Because sooner or later there's always another dickhead male who doesn't believe in women's boundaries.