[–] GynyHappyPeople 77 points (+77|-0) Edited

The commenters really can’t see that what he’s upset about is exactly what they’re doing.

He’s aware that being trans ID’d won’t solve his problems, but he expected to pass and for the medication to alleviate his dyphoria. He doesn’t pass and it didn’t help, and now his mental illness is visible and obvious to people like his employers.

He feels he’s been encouraged into a neurosis that’s just made his underlying mental condition worse. The fact that he’s aware of all this but still feels a compulsion to have facial feminization surgery and pass must be difficult to live with. It sounds like he was depressed and developed an obsession with gender trying to figure out why he felt so bad.

Improving mental health care by improving studies, standard of care, affordability and access is a much saner approach to solving the present mental health crisis than trying to convince the masses to accept that a person can change sex. I imagine a world in which all the money and effort being put into the transgender lobby was instead dedicated to improving mental health care, and despair at the reality.

[–] jelliknight 48 points (+48|-0)

Yeah. Taking cross sex hormones and getting plastic surgery to look somewhat like the opposite sex is a bit like getting a forehead tattoo that says "I AM MENTALLY UNSTABLE". It sure as hell isnt going to make a normal life easier. They are the ones who egged him on to do it.

[–] KBash 14 points (+14|-0)

“Egged” is an appropriate choice of term here.

[–] Luckystar 10 points (+10|-0)

Transition honestly feels like a cruel lie being sold to gender dysphoric people. They will NEVER be the opposite sex. They will never 100% pass; most don't even pass most of the time! What's the point in encouraging Gamestop ma'am to go on HRT or use female pronouns? It's just allowing people to make a laughing stock of themselves...

[–] lucrecia 46 points (+46|-0)

Yeah, he's like "I'm sick of the excessive positivity of trans spaces" and the comments are all doing it right there.

[–] XX_Power 32 points (+32|-0)

I don't get guys like him. He seems like he's close to realizing that sex changes are not possible and that the trans cult grooms people into believing the lie that sex changes are possible and will make your life like heaven on earth.

But he can't take one further step into accepting he will always be a man. So he goes to the trans spaces and half assedly tells them that trans is a lie. What does he expect, that they all immediately terf out? What is his end goal?

It feels a bit like he's trying to get people to tell him he's too ugly or mannish to "successfully transition". He keeps mentioning "if he passed"... I mean do they seriously not realize that the supermajority of TIMs will never pass? He has to have actually seen some TIMs, like does he think Bruce Jenner passes? Even, say, Blaire White with the small statute and innumerable surgeries basically reads as an effeminate gay men to most.

[–] sallyseton 15 points (+15|-0)

He's seeking validation from those around him that he's a woman and since he's not passing and getting it he's angry he was sold a false bill of goods by the excessive positivity of the trans bubble.

Exactly how I felt after watching the Debbie Hayton Triggernometry interview. You understand that you are a man and say you understand where women are coming from yet you still hold on to the trans train despite denouncing the other trans people... how does that work? Why are you the exception?