[–] [Deleted] 33 points (+33|-0) Edited

No, just frame it as a question and it's a completely different statement!

Transphobic parent: Maybe you're a boy then.

Cool Woque QUEER™ parent: Maybe you're a boy then?


[–] starry 9 points (+9|-0)

I'm wondering that if we all started saying "Maybe you're just a man who likes feminine things?" we would suddenly not be considered transphobic, lol.

[–] worried19 25 points (+25|-0)

These people are frightening. I have no doubt that if adults in my life had questioned if I was a boy and then supported me in becoming a boy, I would be trans now.

[–] IronicWolf 24 points (+24|-0)

Has this person never heard of ‘leading questions’? Some questions are not simply questions but signposts to certain answers. There’s a whole body of work about how to interview people in a way that doesn’t improperly influence how they answer the questions.

[–] diapason 16 points (+16|-0)

Especially with children! They're easily influenced, that why there are procedures for how to interview them for court cases and the like

[–] SilkySquid 14 points (+14|-0)

I think maybe this person is saying they don't say it about "liking traditionally masculine things" but that there's some other trigger that gets them to whip out the "maybe you're a boy?" thing. This person says that each time they were reflecting what the kid said to them... so I'm guessing the triggers are something like... girl says, "I hate being a girl!" or, "I don't ever want to get my period!" etc. It's got to be something fairly common, if they've been able to "be that person" a few times already.

[–] NewMa [OP] 26 points (+26|-0)

Does anyone enjoy their period? I mean really.

[–] femuhnist 7 points (+7|-0)

I was one of those weird girls who read too many Judy Blume books so I was SUPER excited about getting my period. And then I got it, and I bled all over my pants, and the next day I had cramps and was like ... yeah, this sucks. Yay, womanhood!

[–] Gini 🌸 Ad meliora 🦕 6 points (+6|-0)

Apparently TIM's do. I wonder why...

[–] Terfest_Shadow 2 points (+2|-0)

"Oh, we never push 'masculine' girls into thinking they're men! We just not-so-subtly suggest that they could be!"