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[–] proudcatlady 9 points (+9|-0)

This. Yes, straights want to be “cool” and join LGBTLMNOP, but this is also a huge marker of the damage done to our society by the current porn and hookup culture. Men are not identifying as demisexual. Women are made to feel broken or “not straight” for not wanting to cater to men’s sexual whims on command.

I remember toying with the idea of identifying as demisexual in college when I felt like a steaming pile of shit, literally invisible and rejected by someone I thought loved me because I wasn’t ready for a sexual relationship yet. I didn’t then and I know now how cringe it was to even consider it, but it wasn’t because I was trying to identify into not being straight. I already knew I was bi. It was a defense mechanism to stop feeling like I was a defective female.